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Not a twink anymore, not yet a muscle queen

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So I stumbled across this on my discover page the other day. It shouldn’t have bothered me as much as it did, however it really resonated with me and my situation at the moment.

This speaks to the really shallow underside of some gay communities. Are you a muscle gay or are you a twink? If you’re body isn’t one of these two ‘acceptable standards’ then you’re not relevant and you’re not desirable.

I’m this weird middle ground, between skinny and chubby. I’m not fat, but I do have a bit of a gut and the starting of manboobs I guess, but I’m 177cm and 80kgs so I wouldn’t consider myself fat. Unsurprisingly Grindr boys wouldn’t agree though.

I had been chatting to this guy on Grindr for a couple of weeks and I had the house to myself. So I thought why not. I haven’t hooked up with anyone in months so I guess I could have him over and see where it goes. I really wasn’t going into this with the intention of guaranteed sex (He says and no one believes him).

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So we’re chatting for a while and we start making out on the couch. He pulls me on top of him, I can feel his boner through his jeans. It feels big, it’s at full mast already. Slow your roll buddy, we’ve both still got our pants on.

He takes off his shirt, and he’s got a decent body, not a six pack or anything, but he looks good. Then he pushes me up a bit so he can take my shirt off of me. so there we are on the couch, both shirtless and mid make out session. Now for those of you who could see where this was going to lead (spoiler alert: the bedroom). You would think that this was a sure thing and if he had just kept his mouth shut that’s exactly what it would have been.

but he felt that his next sentence was important enough to say mid make out session.

You need to join a gym and lose your gut, otherwise guys won’t be into you

Alright, thanks buddy. Thanks for your input, because I have never looked in a mirror before. I just don’t think that my body is the only thing I bring to the table… Though in a Grindr hook up I guess that is all you’re bringing to the table.

Unsurprisingly it was his time to go.

Bye boy bye

So my dry spell continues, but I’m ok with that. Because I’m not going to put up with guys like that.I missed the pick up last time.

Read Justin Hayne’s response to ‘The 7 struggles of an attractive gay’ here. It’s kind of perfect.
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18 thoughts on “Not a twink anymore, not yet a muscle queen Leave a comment

  1. This pisses me off so much! I know I have to lose weight and I’m trying for the most part, but the gym and I are NOT friends. The guy, I’m seeing right now, Eddie, has mentioned we both have to lose weight, which I agree but we have also been seeing each other for almost months now.

    I have become comfortable in my body (finally) and I know I won’t be a twink or a muscle gay bear; NEVER. Eddie, knows this, and I’m not expecting him to be either. We want to do this so we can do more things and fit in the clothes we once had.

    It wasn’t our body’s that got us together, in the end, it was who we are in the inside that did. XX

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    • I hear you. I used to be really into the gym. But I was actually just using it to burn off all the frustration and anger from being closeted. I don’t enjoy the gym and I’m ok with how I look and if guys don’t like that, then they can put their clothes back on and get out of my house…

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  2. Self confidence is sexy. Some of the worst sex I have had is with body builders and some of the best with thick guys. I know there are shallow gays out there but there are many men who will appreciate you for you. Keep looking.

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  3. Be glad that he opened his mouth when he did. Now you have your self respect AND you threw the loser out! Good for you! It’s really sad how insensitive and rude some men can really be. Didn’t anyone bother to teach them manners? It’s basically sad because they care about no one except themselves – and they’re very insecure at that! Naked hugs!

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  4. That’s severely unnecessary of him. How dare he say that. He knew what he you looked lik before he came over. I assume you swapped pics. But that is the issue with our community. they’re so focused on hot bods. No substance. I’m an animist. I actually LOVE a bit of a gut or even a lot of one lol

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