1: Make the first date coffee
it’s quick, it’s simple and it’s not obvious if you bail right after if need be. This one I learnt after a few too many tinder dates where I’d overcommitted my time and couldn’t think of polite ways too bail. The one time my housemate actually locked herself out of the house I was called out for being obviously disinterested. Sorry man, just a happy accident.
2: Get their number
Add it to your contacts and do a Facebook contact search prior. This helps to see if their online dating profile is a true reflection of them or not and whether you have any mutual friends (or exes). Trust me, you’ll thank me later.
3: Three date rule
If they baulk, then they aren’t worth your time. I actually don’t follow the three date rule too closely, but its a very good indication if a guy is uncomfortable with it I say good bye. So I tend to throw it out there before we actually meet, that way I can weed out the time wasters.
4: “Masc4Masc” or “Straight Acting”
I’d better not hear things like ‘Masc’ or ‘Straight Acting’ come out of your mouth. There’s nothing worse than some internalised homophobia to kill the mood
5: Sandals… Enough Said
I was reading a post about red flags for gay men on the first date and started thinking about what sort of rules I currently adhere to, link below. https://pairedlife.com/dating/Gay-Men-10-Red-Flags-on-a-First-Date-That-You-Cant-Ignore